Read Sherry's Responses to Readers' Questions & Problems

Starting A New Chapter
I recently moved and started a new job, and it feels bittersweet. What is the best way to honor all of my feelings?

Impatient
How do I cultivate patience? I find that I always have a hard time waiting.

Lost and Confused Genuine Guy
I know I need to do certain things in life, but I tend to procrastinate or become afraid to take that next step. I’m sort of with this woman, and I feel she brings out the best in me. She motivates me but also can be critical of me. I feel like she is too good for me, but I also feel like she underestimates me…

Mindful Mom
I am not in a position to change school structure or curriculum, but I am a mother and public school teacher. I wonder, if you had your way, what would you say are the most important tenets or rudiments to be taught in the subject of “self” and how can I teach or model these priority lessons?

How Do I Say No Graciously?
How can I say no to opportunities that are presented without feeling like I am shutting someone down?

How Do I Keep My Kids Busy?
My kids are driving me crazy! Do you have any advice about how to keep them busy when they aren't in camp?

How Do I Get Over A Decision I Made Out Of Fear?
When I was 30, I chose to have an abortion. I made this decision out of fear - fear of being in an unhealthy marriage or being a single mom, fear of being rejected or shamed by family, friends, society in general, and all the other fears that come with an unplanned pregnancy. I was healthy and (fairly) financially stable. It is entirely possible that I would have come to the same decision if I made my choice out of love, but knowing the anger and sadness that motivated me to have the abortion gives me pause…

How Do I Go Through A Transition Without Losing My Mind?
How can I go through a transition without losing my mind?

What Should I Do When My Kids Compare What They Have With Others?
My kids are constantly comparing what they have with what others have. Do you have any thoughts on this?

How Do I Set Boundaries With My Teen?
Do you have any tips for setting boundaries with teens?

How Do I Handle Social Situations When People Aren't Wearing A Mask?
How do I socially handle it with grace when people who are not vaccinated and not wearing masks sit next to me?

How Does An Empath Cope?
As an empath, I find it very hard to separate the hurt and sadness I feel for other people so that it doesn't affect my own life in a very big way. Sometimes I feel like other people's sadness becomes my own. If a friend is not ok, I am not ok. Do you have any strategies for helping an empath cope?

How To Stay Grounded During Re-Entry?
I got used to things being quieter this past year and a half. I was never a fan of crowded places, and as more things start to open, I would love some tips for not being overwhelmed and to help me stay grounded.

Should I Be Honest With My Daughter About How I Feel About Her Moving Across The Country?
My 23-year-old daughter is moving across the Country. She is excited to be on her own and have her first apartment but I can't help being sad. What is the best way to support her in this transition? Should I be honest with her about my sadness or is it better to pretend to be excited for her sake?

How To Support A Friend During A Difficult Time?
I have a friend who is in an unhealthy relationship. She has made the mistake of sharing some of the hurtful and emotionally abusive things her "on-again-off-again" boyfriend has done. It is really difficult to sit by and support her going back to him again and again after her confiding in me how bad he is for her. What can/should I do?

Worried About Daughter's Symptoms
I'm concerned about my teenage daughter's mental health since she has been learning virtually all these months. She recently developed a tic. It looks like Tourette's syndrome. Suddenly out of nowhere, she will shudder loudly as if she just caught a cold breeze. Sometimes she jerks her head and neck too…

Should I Let This Relationship Go?
I am in a long-term relationship which is in its 12th year. I have various moments throughout the relationship that made me wonder if I was with the wrong person. This feeling is becoming stronger and stronger during the past 6 months or so after I landed a new job, but he is still struggling with his job/career, plus being together 24/7 in a one-bedroom apartment in NYC is not helping the situation…

How Can I Feel Comfortable About Winning?
I’m a very good tennis player but when it comes time for a game, I feel so bad if the other team is losing that I will throw the game. It’s not that I’m not competitive - the funny thing is I am! But seeing the other people look sad just gets to me. I wish I could play and win without feeling this way.

How Can I Have a Positive Mindset About Money?
Both of my parents have a poverty mindset. Their parents went through the Great Depression and this impacted their beliefs and my parents' outlook. My parents are much older now and doing very well financially, especially my father (they divorced and remarried others) but their views remain the same. They do not trust wealthy people and are verbally disparaging towards them. How can I change the impact of my parents' ideas about money, on myself, so that I can embrace it in my life?

How Can I Handle My Fears About My Daughter?
I have a teenage daughter whom I love very much and am very close to. The issue that I am having is that I see myself in her so much that it is really hard to separate and not project my fears consciously or unconsciously onto her especially when I see her struggling. When I see her struggle it really brings up all of my childhood pain and rather than go into a positive mindset I go into fear that she won’t be ok.