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How can I find peace with my mom being in hospice as I witness her slowly dying?
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How can I find peace with my mom being in hospice as I witness her slowly dying?

I am so grateful you have crossed paths with me. I am 66, my Mom is 93 and in Hospice now. She still knows me. My issue is I am not strong enough to be with her as much as I thought I could be. I become physically dizzy, anxious and stressed. I had a crying breakdown for two days…

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How can I overcome a panic attack?
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How can I overcome a panic attack?

When my partner is going out at night and I am home, I start having an anxiety attack if he is not home by the time he said he would. It gets to a point where I prefer to go out with him even if I don't feel like it, rather than having to go through these moments of panic. I have been like this for as long as I can remember…

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Ultimate Mama
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Ultimate Mama

I love my children and am known as the “ultimate mama”, always there for them, doing everything for them, my kids and my husband come first, and for years I’ve been fulfilling myself only in the time that’s left after taking care of everyone. Now I’m on the verge of big success and in order to get there, I need much more time in the day and energy to think about myself and my goals…

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What Makes A Person Jealous?
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What Makes A Person Jealous?

Why do I get jealous sometimes of what certain people accomplish or are doing and not others?

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How Do I Stop My Online Shopping?
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How Do I Stop My Online Shopping?

My online shopping is out of control. So how do I stop spending?

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How Do I Develop My Sense Of Humor?
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How Do I Develop My Sense Of Humor?

Do you have any recommendations for developing one's sense of humor? Maybe there is a book I could read. My interest stems from realizing how important a sense of humor is to our well-being…

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How Do I Stop Exchanging Gifts With My Friends Without Hurting Their Feelings?
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How Do I Stop Exchanging Gifts With My Friends Without Hurting Their Feelings?

I have a huge family and the holidays are overwhelming/exhausting enough as it is. The time/energy/$$ spent on gifts for friends and friends' kids is daunting. I really would like to reduce the number of friends I exchange gifts with, especially at Christmas. How can I get out of gift giving without hurting someone's feelings?

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Where Do I Go From Here With My Father?
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Where Do I Go From Here With My Father?

How should I move forward after my father has shown an unusually strange discomfort in helping me when I asked while pregnant for some help and also buying a car seat for the baby's arrival. I suspect a large part has come from his wife…

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How Do I Break A Vicious Cycle I Am In With My Child?
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How Do I Break A Vicious Cycle I Am In With My Child?

My son gets very angry when things “inconvenience him.” Something as simple as waking him up an hour before he has to get up by mistake will set him off. His behavior then results in punishment. It’s a vicious cycle.

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Dating Non-Exclusively
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Dating Non-Exclusively

I’ve recently become single and have started dating. I’ve become rather close to a person and he wants us to be exclusive, but I’m not ready for that and want to date other men. Can you give me advice on how to let him know that I don’t want to be exclusive but I care deeply for him?

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Tips to Stay Calm With Your Kids
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Tips to Stay Calm With Your Kids

My husband has a disturbing habit of doling out unrealistic punishments “in a fit of rage”. Oftentimes he reneges on the punishment afterwards. This is extremely frustrating since I believe when you give a punishment you need to follow through. What suggestions do you have for him to be more “thoughtful” in the “heat of the moment”?

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How Do I Trust And Surrender?
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How Do I Trust And Surrender?

How do you surrender and trust that everything will work out the way it is supposed to when things are out of your control?

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How Do I Deal With My Friends Negativity?
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How Do I Deal With My Friends Negativity?

What do you do when you have a good friend, who’s going through a really bad time and reflects her negativity on you, even in the most sensitive topics? I want to be there for her during her tough time, but I also can’t keep getting hurt anymore by her negative remarks.

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How Do I Handle Unreliable People?
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How Do I Handle Unreliable People?

What do you do if you find yourself in a situation with a person that isn’t being reliable, personally or professionally?

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Finding Balance
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Finding Balance

How do I find a balance while taking care of 3 kids who are of different ages and have very different needs; one with special needs, a teenager, and a toddler, while also trying to find time to be with my spouse and develop a career?

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